Looking for love this Valentine's Day? For many, the perfect match has four legs and a wagging tail or a purr. But just like human relationships, choosing a pet based on looks alone can lead to heartbreak for both pet and owner.

Barbara Follett, theriogenology resident at the Virginia Tech Veterinary Teaching Hospital, helps prospective pet owners think beyond appearance to find a companion that truly fits their life.

Understanding temperament

Temperament — an animal's character and nature — is shaped by what it was bred to do. Whether a pet is outgoing or shy, loves strangers or prefers one person, wants to play for hours or nap all day often traces back to its breeding.

"Every type of dog will have had a purpose," Follett said. "Knowing about that can definitely help you pick a better companion. There are always outliers, but there's a general trend among breeds of what you can expect."

"Choosing a cat can be harder in a way because you may not always know what their temperament will be like once they settle in at home," Follett said. "The shelter can be a stressful environment, so it might take time for their true personalities to shine."

What to consider before choosing

Finding a lasting match means being honest about your lifestyle. Follett recommends making a list of what matters to you, including things you might not immediately think of:

  • Energy level: Do you want an active companion for hiking and play, or a relaxed pet happy to lounge? "You can have a bigger dog in a smaller place if they are lower energy," Follett said. "Size matters less than energy level when it comes to living space."
  • Family and household: Small children, other pets, and frequent visitors all affect which pet will thrive in your home. 
  • Your schedule: Be realistic about how much time you can dedicate to a pet daily, weekly, and monthly.
  • Grooming commitment: "I know quite a few people who haven't expected how much grooming is required," said Follett. This applies to both dogs and long-haired cats.
  • What you want from the relationship: Some pets are cuddly and affectionate; others are more independent. Think about what kind of companionship you're really looking for.

Getting to know a pet first

Just like dating, it pays to spend some time together before making a commitment. Whether you're looking at a dog or a cat, getting to know the animal before bringing it home helps ensure a good match. 

"Getting to know the pet before you go ahead and bring it home is important," Follett said. "You should meet them and get to know them a little bit better before you fully commit."

Ask questions: Are they good with cats? Dogs? Children? What's their energy level? Are they housebroken or litter trained? If possible, spend time with the pet before making a final decision.

"Be realistic with yourself about how much time you can dedicate," said Follett. "That homework upfront can mean years of happy companionship."

About Follett

Barbara Follett is a theriogenology resident at the Virginia Tech Veterinary Teaching Hospital, where she specializes in animal reproduction. She is also an experienced dog breeder and handler — her otterhound won the breed national specialty in 2025, and her dogs have competed at the National Dog Show and Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show.

Interview

To schedule an interview, contact Margaret Ashburn at mkashburn@vt.edu or 540-529-0814, or Margie Christianson at marjorielee@vt.edu or 540-231-5825.

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